1. Treat singleness like a curse
According to the Bible singleness is a gift. Maybe it's a gift you don't want like a gift-wrapped snake in a box, but it's still a gift. It's just that it is a gift to the church. Something about your singleness helps the church understand the gospel in a clearer way.
2. Get involved deeply and emotionally with people who are not Christ followers.
News Flash! You will marry someone you date. It invariably happens to us. So don't compromise on the front end or you'll end up kicking yourself on the back end.
3. Be a fake spouse for someone who shies away from commitment.
Being a live-in, fake spouse is a recipe for disaster. Why? Because instead of respecting yourself enough to demand that a person commit themselves to you with their whole life-physically, emotionally, financially, legally, then physically-you are telegraphing that you don't really respect yourself that much, so why should they?
4. When looking for a mate look only for hotness and wealth.
Judging a mate by the standards of the tabloids in the supermarket checkout line is a surefire way to end up with a relationship like the ones in the tabloids in the supermarket checkout line. Spare yourself the grief and look for character and compatible life mission. And remember you're not looking for finished works of sculpture, but great pieces of marble.
5. Give the goodies away
The advice of the Bible can be summed up by those erudite cultural commentators CIARA and Petey Pablo when they say, "If you're looking for the goodies keep on looking 'cause they stay in the jar..." Sex is intended to be a physical commitment mechanism to be expressed in the context of a whole life commitment. Try it before you buy it might be great advice for buying a used car. But people are not cars. People have souls and sex cuts right to the inner-most depths of who we are. In other words, fight for purity!
